The customs of behavior and dress in a funeral have changed over the years, but courtesy never goes out of style. Here's what we'd like you to know about funeral behavior and dress.
Making the Most of a hard Time
It is necessary to know what ethnic, religious, or personal considerations you need to take into account. And it is also important to be respectful of the family member's emotions.
Here are common things expected of you:
- Offer an expression of sympathy at the funeral.
Sometimes we are at a loss for words when encountering something as permanent as death. Simply giving your condolences is usually enough. Be respectful of the family members and listen attentively when spoken to.
- Find out the dress code of the memorial.
In these times almost anything goes. Sometimes the deceased has specified a 'no black' dress code. If you can't learn the wished of the family. Then we suggest that you dress conservatively and avoid bright colors that would stand out.
- Give a gift to the family member.
It doesn't matter if it is flowers, a donation or special service you can provide for the family. It is the thought that counts.
- Sign the register book.
Make sure to include your name, and it is especially important for the family to know how you are related to the deceased.
- Keep in contact with the family.
It may be awkward for you do so, but for the family members the grieving doesn't end with the funeral and this allows them to see how much you cared about the deceased.
But, What Shouldn't You Do?
- Don't feel that you have to stay.
If you make a visit during calling hours there's no reason your stay has last the whole entirety of the service.
- Don't be afraid to laugh.
Remembering their loved one happily can mean sharing a humorous story or two. Just be mindful of the place and time; if others loved ones are sharing, then you may do so too. There is simply no good reason why you shouldn't talk about the deceased in a positive light.
- Don't feel you have to view the deceased if there is an open casket.
Act according to your comfortable level with an open casket.
- Don't allow your children to be a disturbance.
If you feel your child may be a disturbance we recommend you find a sitter. But, if the deceased meant something to them, this may be a good idea to invite them to share in the experience.
- Don't leave your cell phone on.
Make sure to turn of your cell before entering the funeral home or leave in in the vehicle. Sadly we are getting more and more people checking there phones during service and even interrupting a funeral.
- Don't forget to step into the receiving line.
You can say how sorry you are for their loss and let them know how you knew the deceased.
- Don't be too hard on yourself if you make a mistake at a funeral or memorial service.
Everyone makes mistakes, and you can be sure that an apology may be all that's needed to heal and soothe.
When it's all over, always remember to continue to offer support and kindness to the bereaved. The next few months are a time when grieving friends and relatives could need you more than ever. Let them know that your support did not end with the service and that you are their for them.
We are Here to Help
Perhaps you've got concerns about an memorial service or a funeral service? We're here to provide the answers you're looking for. Call us at (303) 776-2434.